George Bush, instant love, and the ol' bump n' grind.
This afternoon I went on the radio to talk about sex, or rather no sex. Following an article that appeared in the Independent last week which stated that the Bush government's drive to promote sexual abstinence was coming to an end due to it simply not having any effect, the BBC's Welsh language station Radio Cymru rang asking if I'd be willing to make a comment about it. The column in question said
"Last week came the "shocking" news that President Bush's $1bn abstinence campaign has failed. Despite its shaming slogans like, "Would you eat a cookie that already had a bite out of it?", the Department of Health found no evidence that programmes such as the Silver Ring Thing affected rates of sexual abstinence."
And it isn't just on the American side of the pond. Another article, also in the Independent, talked about findings in this country on the same topic - "A new report from Ofsted, the education watchdog, concludes: "There is no evidence that abstinence-only programmes as the only education reduce teenage pregnancies or improve sexual health."
So what have we gathered? That young people like sex - love it. Hardly worth spending a billion finding that one out, was it? No matter how much they try, people just can't stop wanting sex, and doing it. No matter how intense the campaign to promote abstinence, young people, just can't do it.
And that's pretty much what I said on the show. Sex is good and fun and natural - why would people not do it?
Now, of course, as a Christian, I have some pretty clear opinions on the subject - Sex is good, but for the person that you marry. If you don't have those bits, don't think about them. Until that person is your spouse, they are your sibling in Christ, and doing stuff with a relative is beyond wrong. So keep all the bits kids play 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine' with covered up until God says that you are one flesh.
'One flesh' is the Bible's way of saying, married. Sex is the reward for promising to love and honour and care for a person from the day you're married until the day God calls one of you to glory. Between these two (fairly) massive events in your life, sex is to be enjoyed. God's even dedicated a book in the Bible to the subject of enjoying sex. What I was hoping to get across on the show this afternoon was not that the Bible (and therefore Christians) is anti-sex, God is very much pro-sex, but only when it's done on his terms.
As a Christian, it doesn't surprise me to read that the Abstinence programme that Bush's government implemented and funded didn't work. What did surprise me is the way that the news was reported. "Success of abstinence in cutting teen pregnancies is a 'myth'" was one headline that I read (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2006/12/01/nsex01.xml).
Hang on a minute... 'Success of abstinence in cutting teen pregnancies is a 'myth'' - am I reading that properly? Is the paper honestly telling me that it's a myth that teenagers can avoid getting pregnant by abstaining from sex? Isn't the best way to not get pregnant by not doing the sex thing? Whilst we're on the subject, surely the best way to not catch an STD is to not T the D by S?
Of course, this is not what the paper is saying. The 'myth' is that the teenagers are abstaining from sex in the first place. No matter how much money is spent on encouraging them to not do it - why should they not, when they find out how good it is?
You see, it's a question of motivation. Sex is too powerful to simply give up, too good. When you refrain from sex for no other reason other than 'your own well being', you simply ain't going to be able to do it. Instead what's needed is a motivation that's bigger than even the fear of catching a baby or a very nasty itch. And the only thing that's big enough is God. When He's your motivation, you can.
As I've been writing, I've been thinking about why people want sex on their terms. Now the good old fashioned reformed answer would be 'because we are all depraved sinners', but I don't think it's as simple as that. What is it about sex that makes sinners want it on their terms, and not God's?
Might it be a longing for the high you get from love, but without all the faff of 'is this the one?'? I'm sure that for a lot of people it would be - they know that love will satisfy them, and they (rightly) see sex as the physical sign of the love that people desire so much.
And of course, we live in a world where we 'get' instantly, and we're used to taking the short cut if there's one available. So if you want coffee, but without having to wait to grind the beans - instant coffee. 'You want credit but without all the form filling? Et viola! Internet instant credit!'
You want love but without the wait? Sex. The only problem is, no matter how much you get, it will never satisfy you. And you know what? The bit that's really going to get you is that even if you find that one partner that you remain totally monogamous with, you'll still not be satisfied. Deep down, there'll be a part of the satisfaction that'll be missing.
Do you want real love? Even when you've been at your most deplorable, God has loved you. Even when you have told him that you make the decision in the life that he gave you, God has loved you, and has given himself for you. No matter how broken or dirty your heart is, Christ died to let you experience love that satisfies. His love is instant, and eternal, sustaining and satisfying.



A few days ago, Jonny Raine and I ended up in Bridgend, specifically Bryntirion. Jonny had picked up some information about a day conference on ‘The Call’. So off we trotted down the M4 heading WESTwards.
So Word Alive is coming to Wales in 2008 with a genius new name: “New Word Alive”! And personally I think it’s great! Word Alive previously ran one very good week at Spring Harvest in Skegness. Now they are holding a week long conference at Pwllheli in North Wales .
It may seem suprising, but there is meaning behind this seemingly odd title. There is a profound link between truth and melons.